Before an ideal mate comes into your life, be leery of users. Users, also known as narcissists, come in all styles, from scruffy to educated and polished. Users never take a day off from looking for someone to use, and they maliciously appear in your life when you are looking for “the right one.” A user will sabotage your life plans and exploit you for their gain. So, even if you are not planning to friend total strangers, by signing up on a dating site or looking for a mate on Facebook, be clear of the difference between a user and a “keeper.”
A user, or gold-digger, sees your prosperity potential, so make sure you realize you have potential, to protect it, or you will give your heart and valuable time to the wrong person. (Even if you haven't discovered your potential, yet, you have prosperity potential.) Be cautious who you befriend and look for signs of narcissism before you make any major life decisions. Make no mistakes, sleeping with someone (even one night) is a life decision, so wait until after you have a marriage commitment before sleeping with a person.
"A user, or gold-digger, sees your prosperity potential, so make sure you realize you have potential, to protect it."
Users appear charming because they do not mind pretending to be someone they are not for fringe benefits. If you are a woman looking for a husband, understand there are men who look for women, young or old, for financial security. Even though, they would love to find someone, who has made the Forbes' list, they look for anyone who they can use to move up financially. Think of it like this—users are always looking for some form of money and they don’t care if they destroy your life to get what they want. Some will look for an older, established, woman to avoid working. Other forms of compensation could be a place to stay (for a night, or indefinite), a better lifestyle, a nice car to drive, etc. Users, typically, are temporary people who attach themselves to your life to get ahead; once they find someone who offers a better situation they are gone. And they casually leave, letting you expect their return, because they always keep doors open, in case they need to use you again. Under normal circumstances, they do not change. They are not in love with anyone, except themselves.
Users don’t have long-term plans; they keep their options open because they are constantly looking for a new found friend to use. A charmer wants from others, but only gives a little of himself because a user is never concerned about the desires of others.
But, understand, you never have to settle for a user. You always have the choice to block a user from your life. When a user sees you are not impressed with his lame tactics (which users like for people to think of as “charm”), he will hurry to find someone else to use.
If you want to avoid being used, or if you happen to be a user, who is tired of looking for people to use and you want to attain your own prosperity, read “How to Hear God to Prosper.”
© VC Edwards 2014, All rights reserved.
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