It is common for children, particularly toddlers and teens, to stress out parents, but no one gives a voice to the children who are stressed by parents—parents of problematic relationships, substance abuse, illiteracy and unstable or low-paying employment.
Children, today, who are born into a life of stress, sense something is wrong often before they start school. Parents, who are stress-makers, believe toddlers are unaware of what is going on, however, children sense the slightest change in a parent because a child depends on a parent for everything. A child who is raised by a troubled parent, or parents, experiences physical and emotional effects of hunger, neglect and even abuse and abandonment. As a child grows, the effect of a stressed parent can be evident through poor nourishment and health, slow learning, sleeping disorders and extreme behaviors (withdrawn personalities, for some, and rebellion, for others). One unstable parent can disrupt the entire family, and children learn to emotionally brace for embarrassing episodes and cope with helplessness, on a daily basis.
As stressed children become teens, they often sense that they are missing the fundamentals to succeed in the real world. They know their families, for whatever reason, do not have information needed to prosper. As children of stressed parents struggle throughout their young lives to keep their family secret from peers and others, they typically shy away from or rebel against people that could be instrumental in their success. So, if no adult (a relative, neighbor, teacher, guidance counselor, coach, church official, community activist or business owner) recognizes a need to help and steps in to show the pathway to success, these young people grow up believing they cannot achieve success, at least not by the world’s standards.
The good news for these young people is that their endurance during early hardships often gives them strengths for the real world that the average person does not have. Young people have fundamentals for success, when they combine their experiences and strengths with education and Christian wisdom. Many young people develop character strengths during hard times, such as resourcefulness, self-reliance and problem-solving in subpar surroundings; overcoming stress with humor, maintaining a calm demeanor during traumatic situations, all which can be used to help others in challenging situations. Turning hardships into accomplishments for a career path is a key to turning from poverty to prosperity.
Reducing stressful living typically starts with someone in a family gaining reliable information to prosper, being that poverty (lack of prosperity) is a primary reason many parents and families are stressed. Whether you are a teen who has grown up with stressful parents or with nurturing parents, equip yourself with information to succeed, by reading “How to Hear God to Prosper,” which gives a tried-and-true foundation to prosper for life.
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